Expectations of Society & Why You Should Just Do You

discussing society's expectations of me

Yesterday I turned 21 and it set me off into a downwards spiral of “I’m not ready to be 21. How did I get here?”. Because once you’re 21 you’re automatically an adult, right? Well I’m telling you now, I don’t know how to adult or the best place to start. And as someone who still lives at home and likes hanging out with her parents, I do not meet society’s expectations of a gal of 21. (Not to mention the fact that I still look about 16 cos that can be a touchy subject.) And honestly, the issue for me is that those stereotypical expectations that people have just don’t appeal to me.

Not gonna lie, it does get to me most of the time. I often have moments of “Why am I such a child?” slash “Why can’t I still be a child?” and I hate myself over it. Yet I always come back to the point that those expectations that tear me up inside just aren’t me. And as they say, you do you girl. So I do.

It’s not just the issue of age and adulting, those pesky expectations -and basically peer pressure (yes kids, it still exists outside of high school)- are lurking around every corner I turn. Whether it’s the fact that I should be out partying and drinking the night away when I’d rather stay in with some coke (fizzy pop not any other kind) and get to bed by 10pm (am I child or grandma? Undecided yet). Or the fact that I continue to live with my parents (well I can’t cook so where else am I going to go before I marry a chef?).

Expectations are waiting to slap me in the face and bring me back to reality when I’m just starting to feel good about myself. But does it really matter about expectations when you are who you are and ain’t nothing gonna change that? Besides, if there’s one good thing about officially being an adult it’s got to be that you can do literally whatever the heck you want. So remember: you do you, girl.

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  • Becky Rose Carver

    Girl, i’m almost 23 (that hurts to say) but I still live life just how I want
    Don’t let your age define you because I can confirm that you do not need to have anything together just yet or even in the near future in fact !
    I still live life just doing what I want but i’ve only started adulting in the last year (very little may I add) & i’ve lived on my own for 4 years, so I don’t even really know what it is to be an adult myself – I think the only time i’ve felt like an adult is my holiday to Greece last year, i stayed in an adults only 5* hotel… haha

    Don’t worry about other peoples expectations just your own! Work on yourself & create a vision for your own life and just work on it, you’ll feel however you’re meant to feel – My mum is almost 60 and she say’s she still feels like a teen sometimes #fu*k expectations & reality I guess xx

    • Sophie

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment! It’s funny really, I just don’t feel my age and don’t think I ever will! It’s great to hear someone else’s view and know that I’m not the only one haha! xo Soph

  • I could really relate to this post, I’ve never felt like I identify with any of life’s social expectations. When I was at university, I gave in to social pressure and did the whole partying thing when I didn’t want to. I’ve come to realise recently though that it doesn’t matter if you don’t follow the status quo.

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    • Sophie

      Totally girl, we’ve got to stick to who we are! Thanks for your lovely comment 🙂
      xo Soph